Friday, October 26, 2007

Ini lah CoVer AlBum Kami Yang TErbarU

di BerI JuDul Kaki Ku Kaki mU JuA

HoW dO U FeEL AbOut FeMaIL FRiendS

Your relationship’s zooming ahead in top gear. You’re on a one‑way street to happy ever after, and all the lights are on green. But there’s one thing that makes you want to slam on the brakes ... your boyfriend’s involved with another woman. There is, however, a twist: although he’s over there chatting to the curvaceous female in the mini‑skirt, he claims they’re only mates. Yes, you’re in love with a man who says he can just be good friends with a woman.

Too close for comfort
So, where does that leave you? The debate over whether men and women can have platonic relationships rages on. If you’ve been out with a guy who has close female friends, you’ll know how hard it is to deal with the mixed emotions his friendships create. You find yourself wondering: How close are they? What do they talk about when they go out? Does he discuss his deepest thoughts with her? Do they talk about you?

With all these questions running around in your head, it’s no wonder you ask yourself why he has to have female friends. Is he trying to keep you on your toes? Is he having an affair behind your back? Aren’t you enough for him? Thoughts like this can get out of hand very quickly!

But, as Anne Hooper, sex therapist and author of Anne Hooper’s Ultimate Sex Guide says, “It’s natural to have friends of both sexes. The world would be a boring place if we had to screen out 50% of the people in it.”

This means it’s not the sex of his friends that’s important but the type of female friends he has (which is largely out of your control), and the way you handle them (which is definitely within your control). These factors will decide the effect his women friends have on your relationship.

The shock of the new
One thing that’s hard to take is a new female friend making an appearance once your relation­ship is established. Laura, 22, had a difficult time with her boyfriend Tim when he started college and made friends with Sara. Laura understood he was in a new environment and wanted to meet other new students, but Sara was a nightmare. She’d ring and giggle when Laura answered, then coyly ask to speak to Tim. “She’d call at all hours and never tried to chat with me,” says Laura. “It was obvious she had no respect for my relationship with Tim. I might as well have not existed – I’m sure she wished I didn’t.”

At first, Tim couldn’t see it. He thought Laura was just jealous. Then he did a Will Carling and met Sara one night without telling Laura, simply because he didn’t want to annoy her. But like Julia Carling, who blew her top over Will’s tête‑à-têtes with the late Princess Diana, Laura was livid. “It was the worst thing he could have done,” she fumes. “I was really upset and thought they were having an affair. Why else would he go behind my back? What really upset me was that I didn’t believe she was just a friend. A real friend wouldn’t threaten a guy’s relationship with his girlfriend.”

So, to figure out if you need to worry or not, look closely at their friendship and see how it affects you. As Laura says, “If both of them make it obvious you’re above her in the pecking order, it’s okay. But if she’s trying to wheedle her way higher up than you in his affections, you’ve got problems.” And if he can’t see through her or doesn’t want to, you’ve got a big problem. Ask yourself if he's just playing the two of you off against each other, and using her as a way of making sure you don’t get too close or start feeling too comfortable. If this is how your boyfriend sees his female friends ‑ and you ‑ it makes you wonder whether he deserves any of you.

Leave them to it
On the other hand, if he ‑ and his female friends ‑ make every effort to acknowledge your special place in his heart, and treat you with respect, then their friendship is probably genuine. In which case the best thing you can do for all your sakes is just leave them to it.

“Louise has known my boyfriend Steve for years, they were at school together, and are both comic fans,” says Kara, 28. “Every time they go to a convention Steve asks me along, too. But I went once and was bored, so now they go without me. I can’t say I’m thrilled. But I’m okay about it because Louise is always polite to me and makes a point of asking me about my life when she phones. If I put my foot down and demanded Steve stopped going, he probably would... but I think he’d hate me for it. Anyway, I can’t watch him 24 hours a day. I have to trust him, otherwise our relationship couldn’t survive.”

Kara’s obviously thought through her natural feelings of jealousy but, if we’re honest, we do worry sex may enter the most innocent friendship. Why? Simply because sometimes we get lonely and need a confidence boost, and there they are, ready and maybe more able than we suspected.

Take this scenario: you and your partner have had a row, you storm off to stay at your mum’s, he calls up an old female pal to help drown his sorrows. If she’s there for him when you’re not, there’s always the chance the ‘sympathy‑sex’ card gets played. Says Hooper, “In this situation, what happens is beyond your control. The only person who’ll stop him having sex with his female friends is himself.”

But don’t tear your hair out just yet. The way you behave can either boost his self‑control ‑ or make him more tempted. “My ex always wanted to know every detail when I went out with my one female friend,” says Mark, 26. “I got sick of her jealousy. And I felt insulted. I trusted her not to play around, so why couldn’t she trust me?”

He has a point. Just as you can fancy a man, but not jump into bed with him, if your partner is committed to your relationship he’s capable of keeping a female friend at arm’s‑length, too. However, to keep this delicate balance intact Hooper believes you’ve got to face the fact that there will be an attraction between your boyfriend and his female friends. “With any friendship there’s an attraction between the people involved, it may be a sense of humour, it may be liking the way they look or their intelligence. But don’t confuse this attraction with sexuality. And don’t let your jealousy push him into seeing her in a sexual way just because you automatically assume that’s the way he sees her. Jealousy has a tendency to create its own problems in the end.”

So, if you can, take a deep breath and force yourself to give him space. Otherwise you’ll run the risk of forcing him into her arms instead of yours.

It’s only natural
But before you rush off for counselling because you’ve been known to get a bit jealous, it’s important to remember a dose of green‑eyes isn’t always negative. It’s perfectly natural and healthy to have some jealous feelings towards the other women in your man’s life ‑ it shows an interest in keeping him, and proves you value him. “Your jealousy is your antenna,” explains relationship psychologist Susan Quilliam. “It’s your way of feeling something is wrong in your otherwise healthy relationship.”

From her experience Jo, 25, agrees. She and Luke had been going out for a year when he started having after‑dark dates with a female friend he’d previously only met for lunch. Not surprisingly Jo was jealous and suspected something was going on.

“It turned out Luke’s friend had just changed jobs and things were so hectic she didn’t take a lunch break. Once I found this out I felt a bit stupid,” says Jo, but she points out, “If something had been going on at least I would have been aware of it instead of blindly carrying on as usual.”

And now for the good news
Believe it or not, his female friends can improve your relationship. If Vicky’s a friend from work, he can moan to her about the problems he has there and, when he comes home, you’ll only have to listen to the edited highlights.

And so what if you don’t share his interest in football but his mate Lisa does? It means you don’t have to feel bad when you tell him you won’t stand on a freezing terrace for hours ‑ he can go with her. And when they’re forlornly waving their stripy scarves in the sleet, you’ll be cosily tucked up at home with a box of chocolates, a bottle of wine and a Keanu Reeves video.

And think about all the men you know who have female friends. You can bet your last penny they’re more sensitive and trustworthy than men who only hang out with other men, getting drunk and communicating in lad‑speak. If they spend time talking about feelings with a female friend, it stands to reason they’ll be more emotionally developed and in touch with their feelings.

And, finally, remember no one person can give another everything they need in life ‑ so, unless they really are after him, try to look at your boyfriend’s female friends in a positive way. See the time he spends with them as a way of him expanding his mind. He’ll learn a lot more about himself and the world from a different perspective. And, hopefully, he’ll be a whole lot better for it ‑ and a whole lot better for you, too.
Fending off a predator
If you do have strong suspicions that his so-called female ‘friend’ is a romantic Jurassic Park Raptor in disguise, you can take action. First of all, meet her. The best way to deal with a behind-your-back situation is to confront it. Let her see you with your boyfriend. Be nice and chatty – a clever way to get the moral high ground over her. If she’s after your man she’ll be less likely to have an affair with him after she’s met her real-life rival (especially if she likes you). Suddenly the complications and guilt-potential of what she’s contemplating will spring into sharp focus and might just put her off. And your boyfriend gets to see what a kind, lovely person you are and how petty her scheming looks in comparison. Enough said.

Cinta lah Jauh Lagi....

Percintaan jarak jauh selalunya tidak menjadi akibat banyak faktor yang menghalang. Hati tidak senang dan penuh prasangka apabila kekasih tiada di sisi. Aktivitinya tiada siapa yang dapat mengesahkan, teman-temannya tidak begitu anda kenali, perasaan rindu yang menebal lama-lama hanya merobek hati lantas menjadikan ramai pencinta jarak jauh yang berputus asa di tengah jalan dan membiarkan cinta itu pergi.
Bercinta cara ini hanya boleh dicuba oleh mereka yang kuat semangat kerana banyak cabaran yang perlu dihadapi dan hanya hati yang kuat sahaja dapat memintas segala tohmahan yang menerjah di minda ketika si dia tidak bersama. Sebagai contoh, sewaktu kekasih anda sms dan mengatakan dia akan pergi makan malam dengan seorang kawan, serta-merta anda terfikir, teman itu perempuan atau lelaki. Dan apabila anda bertanya, walaupun dia mengatakan teman satu jantina, hati anda tidak puas dan inginkan pengesahan tetapi anda tidak tahu bagaimana untuk mendapatkannya. Jadi akhirnya bibit prasangka itu akan anda pendam dalam hati yang lama-lama menjadikan anda percaya tentang apa yang anda fikirkan, iaitu dia keluar dengan orang lain. Minda kita imaginasinya luas dan jika tidak berhati-hati, pelbagai bayangan akan muncul dan mampu merosakkan perhubungan yang dijalin.
Untuk bercinta jarak jauh, perkara pertama yang anda perlu ada ialah percaya. Kepercayaan terhadap kekasih anda perlu kukuh dan tebal. Percaya apa yang dia kata dan percaya bahawa anda istimewa di hatinya. Apabila anda percaya, anda tidak tertanya-tanya betulkah semua yang dia laporkan kepada anda. Anda tidak mempersoalkan kesetiaan dia terhadap cinta anda. Dan apabila anda percaya, anda tidak akan mengajukan soalan-soalan tidak relevan yang boleh merosakkan perhubungan.
Yang keduanya, anda perlu berkomunikasi dengan kerap. Di zaman sekarang ini, melainkan jika anda hidup di kampung yang tiada sambungan Internet atau tiada pancaran telefon bimbit, cara untuk berkomunikasi sudah mudah dan murah. Di Internet ada Skype, ada Google Talk, ada Yahoo!, ada MSN dan macam-macam lagi saluran bercakap yang percuma. Anda hanya perlukan headset yang baik dan sambungan Internet yang laju. Kalau rindu sangat, dapatkan kamera untuk laman web dan anda boleh berhubung dengan si dia secara ‘real time’. Untuk yang suka pesanan ringkas, pastikan memilih pelan sms atau smslah dia sesuka hati selepas pukul 12 malam. Jangan memilih untuk berbual di telefon dengan kerap kerana ini akan menambah beban kewangan anda.
Kedatangan bil beratus ringgit hanya akan menambah masalah dan memberi tekanan kepada perhubungan. Banyak saluran komunikasi percuma atau murah yang boleh anda gunakan. Namun begitu, sesekali menelefon untuk mendengar suara si dia, apa salahnya. Ketika berkomunikasi, pastikan topik-topik yang dibincangkan bukan yang menjurus kepada perbalahan. Jarak antara anda berdua tidak akan membantu jika anda bertengkar jarak jauh. Hanya hati yang akan terluka pedih dan perhubungan anda akan suffer akhirnya. Pilih topik-topik yang menggembirakan ketika anda berjauhan.
Ketiga, pastikan anda kawal diri ketika kekasih hati tiada di sisi. Cabaran banyak di luar sana dan sekali-sekala apabila cabaran datang menerpa, hati anda harus kuat untuk menepisnya. Jika ada gadis atau jejaka lain yang datang menggoda, yakinkan diri yang anda sudah berpunya. Warwarkan yang anda sudah ada teman agar semua yang single tidak begitu berminat untuk mendekati anda. Jangan disia-siakan kepercayaan kekasih anda yang jauh di mata dengan berpeleseran bersama orang lain. Ketidakjujuran sukar untuk dirahsiakan, lama-lama ia akan terbongkar jua. Jika anda telah berjanji untuk setia, kuatkan hati dan kawal perasaan kerana itu juga yang dilakukan oleh kekasih anda di sebelah sana.
Bukan calang-calang orang yang boleh menjayakan hubungan jarak jauh. Hati yang cenderung untuk cemburu ialah golongan yang pertama sukar mengekalkan cinta cara ini. Mata yang rambang juga jangan bermimpi untuk setia dengan si dia yang tidak dekat di sisi. Kejayaan cinta jarak jauh ini memerlukan komitmen daripada kedua belah pihak untuk memastikan perhubungan berjalan dengan lancar. Tanya diri sendiri dan jika anda tidak mampu, jangan lakukannya.

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

AdUn Di MaLaYsIa

>> DUN yg paling sejuk . DUN Batu Berendam
>> DUN yg paling tak de rasa . DUN Air Tawar
>> DUN yg paling panas , DUN Pedas.
> > DUN yg paling miskin . DUN Sekupang
> > DUN yg paling muda , DUN Sri Muda
> > DUN yg paling lemah , DUN Batang Berjuntai
> > DUN yg paling basah , DUN Sg Besar
> > DUN yg kuat makan satay , DUN Kajang
> > DUN yg banyak hantu , DUN Pucong
> > DUN yg ada istana , DUN Kota Raja.
> > DUN yg banyak ikan , DUN Tg Sepat
> > DUN yg paling keras , DUN Batu Tiga.
> > DUN paling pendalaman , DUN Hulu Klang
> > DUN banyak air , DUN Ampangan
> > DUN banyak penganas . DUN Kuala Kubu.
> > DUN paling takde kemajuan , DUN Gurun
> > DUN paling bahaya , DUN Baling.
> > DUN banyak semut . DUN Kota Sarang Semut.
> > DUN paling pelik , DUN Sg Ada Burung
> > DUN ada binatang , DUN Kijang
> > DUN paling wangi ,DUN Pokok Sena
> > DUN paling tak cantik, DUN Batu Buruk

Berperibahasa Bersama Cikgu Rokiah

1. Kemana tumpahnya kuah kalau tidak ke bawah
2. Tak lapuk dek hujan, tak lekang macam rambutan
3. Tiada rotan, pelempang berguna juga
4. Biar lambat asalkan perlahan
5. Biar putih tulang, jangan kuning gigi
6. Di mana ada gula di situ adalah gula-gula
7. Kalah jadi abu, menang jadi arang, seri jadi abu bakar
8. Carik-carik bulu ayam, lama-lama jadi shuttlecock
9. Secupak takkan jadi 18 cupak
10. Gajah mati meninggalkan gading, udang harimau matimeninggalkankulit, manusia mati meninggal dunia
11. Sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit, inikan pula makanan didalam mulut.
12. Harapkan pagar, pagar tidak boleh diharap
13. Alang-alang mandi biar guna sabun
14. Berapa berat mata memandang, berat lagi seguni beras
15. Cubit paha kanan, paha kiri tak rasa apa-apa pun
16. Diam-diam ubi berisi, diam-diam orang.... bisu
17. Hidup segan mati di tanam
18. Ikut hati mati, ikut rasa merasa
19. Lembu punya susu cap teko dapat nama
20. Sehari selambar benang lama-lama benang habis
21. Jika kail panjang sejengkal, beli le yang panjang sikit kalaunak ngail di laut. (beli la pukat tunda lagi baik)
22. Hendak seribu daya, tak hendak tak apa
23. Membujur lalu melintang pukang
24. Hujan emas di negeri orang, hujan batu di negeri sendiri,lebih baik hari tak hujan
25. Sebab pul ut santan binasa, sebab mulut habis pulut
26. Kecil-kecil cili padi, kecil lagi biji cili
27. Kalau sudi katakan sudi, kalau tak sudi boleh blah!!

Match 2007-2008

JADUAL PERLAWANAN ARSENAL DI CHAMPION LEAGUE

12/08 - 2007 Arsenal-Fulham 2-1

19/08 - 2007 Blackburn - Arsenal 1-1

25/08 - 2007 Arsenal - Manchester City 1-0

02/09 - 2007 Arsenal - Portsmouth 3-1

15/09 - 2007 Tottenham - Arsenal 1-3

22/09 - 2007 Arsenal - Derby 5-0

29/09 - 2007 West Ham United - Arsenal 0-1

07/10 - 2007 Arsenal - Sunderland 3-2

20/10 - 2007 Arsenal - Bolton Wanderers 2-0

28/10 - 2007 Liverpool - Arsenal 1-1

03/11 - 2007 Arsenal - Manchester Utd 2-2

12/11 - 2007 Reading - Arsenal 1-3

24/11 - 2007 Arsenal - Wigan 2-0

01/12 - 2007 Aston Villa - Arsenal 1-2

05/12 - 2007 Newcastle United - Arsenal 1-1

09/12 - 2007 Middlesbrough - Arsenal 2-1



16/12 - 2007 Arsenal - Chelsea

22/12 - 2007 Arsenal - Tottenham Hotspur

26/12 - 2007 Portsmouth - Arsenal

29/12 - 2007 Everton - Arsenal

Monday, October 22, 2007

my song




bes giler

Pop Shuvit - Mara Bahaya
Jauh ku menuju
Jauh semakin jauh
Kanan kiri ku
Tiada hanya di tempat ku
Laju ku laju yang itu yang di tuju
Tujuh garisku kau akan kejar
Puteri la jagaku
Kerah ku berani melawan waktu
Aksi ku buat remaja untukmu hingga biar detik terkelu
Daerah ini telah terpateri
Dalam lurah seni naluri hati
Mengalir dalam diri hara-kiri ku berani mati
Segala angin lintang dalam bersimpang mati
Terbakar obor terbuka api
Terus ku tak bertetapi tiada bertepi
Jauh ku menuju
Jauh semakin jauh
Kanan kiri ku
Tiada hanya di tempat ku
Laju ku laju yang itu yang di tuju
Tujuh garisku kau akan kejar
Puteri la jagaku
Susur catur atur gerak pandai
Kendera di ubah suai
Perisai di jadam pita
Tegak berdiri atau tepian pada teratak
Atau akur penuh ke semangat berkobar-kobar
Berobor gerak kejar mengejar
Genggam menggenggam tayar berkecam
Amuk merasuk menggempar litar
Nitrous oxy ligat membakar
Jauh ku menuju
Jauh semakin jauh
Kanan kiri ku
Tiada hanya di tempat ku
Laju ku laju yang itu yang di tuju
Tujuh garisku kau akan kejar
Puteri la jagaku
Meraba-raba
Mara bahaya
Meraba-raba
Mara bahaya
Jauh ku menuju
Jauh semakin jauh
Kanan kiri ku
Tiada hanya di tempat ku
Laju ku laju yang itu yang di tuju
Tujuh garisku kau akan kejar
Puteri la jagaku

My Arsenal

hai...
aku nak la citer skit tentang bola sepak. aku salah sorang peminat ola sepak and ofcaoz aku juga pemain bola satu ketika dule yek. kalau kat dunia ni mcam2 ader tentang bola dari celik jer mata sampai la tutup ni kn kn world cup tu lah.. Kat malaysia x banyak citer nyer juga, liga malaysia sehinggalah liga primera. tapi aku x lah braper minat dengan player orang kiter ni klu nak men jer misti nak minta duit lebih bru leh men dengan bagus,tu pendapat aku la kn. klu player luar tengok je lah duit jangan cakap la sentiaser masyuk la kata kn. ha! ni yang bes nak share dengan korang team yang aku minat kat europe tu ARSENAL la haha... korang plak camner?
aku minat team ni sejak kecik lagi maser tu thun tiga la klu x silap...
sebab per ek?? bagus ker ?? haha memang bgus la! Klu x tak la akuminat camni giler huhu.. tgok jelah player diorang yang berkaliber and young lagi kan kn, aku minat giler degan si v Persi tu, klu men jagan citer la sampai esok pun x bes pyer. Best left foot plyer in the team !!! Fabregas, rosecky, hleb, clichy and ramai lagi ler. yamg bes nyer diorang ni coz scor las mint in d match kadang- kadang tu berbulu gak tgok klu men bosan kn, tapi mesti meyirap darah seseorang tu klu kiter orang menang last minit cam selalu tu,huahua...
las week this team will win down the boltan in 2 neayl huhu kecian kan kn
dis week plak lawan ngan si Bernitaz pyer team kat awey la plak huhu leh menag rase2 nyer kn? tau pyer lah haha x cyer tengok jer lah saper yang nagis huhu klu leh menang 3 0 kan lagi bgus dapat gak kekalkan kedudukan diatas tagga liga dengan selesa so korang jagan luper minggu depan yek haha gO Arsenal Goal
ok la bro gua nak caw...
thanx dat all huh!!!
wasalam